Family dynamics
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HOLY PARENTIFICATION, BATMAN!
Now that that’s out of my system. I just need to vent about parentification and the quiverfull movement for a hot second. I know last post was mostly about mental health and abusive relationship. But parentification is also something that haunts and harms kids within fundamentalist systems. I recently visited my grandma in the hospital…
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Abusive Relationships and Fundamentalism
I spoke recently about laying down boundaries with one of my siblings and how she was told not to witness to my children if she wanted to visit. The conversation quickly pivoted away from any mentions about visiting. And it’s not focused on my younger sibling witnessing personally to me. “Again out of love I…
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Blindsided
“They wear a blindfold to bury the past” I think I’m slowly having to face the fact that my distance from my family very well may be a permanent thing. l truly hadn’t intended it to be forever. I knew physical distance was going to limit contact, but I had never started with the intention…
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An Absence
CW: Conspiracies. Illness in Children Me and my spouse have been going through it recently. Life’s been extremely rough and has required so much more emotional and physical energy to navigate. My autistic child is having an increase in unsafe behavior and that has just made day to day life extremely difficulty. (Fun fact, did…
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The Shred Box
CW: Death of a child, Miscarriage Recently I was talking with my spouse, and I realized that I had completely erased a traumatic event that happened early in our marriage. We were talking about all of the things that we’ve been through together, and she brought up a particular week very early in our marriage.…
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You Could Have Had It All
I’ve been stuck on the same topic of “Nothing Changes” for a while now. And how within many family systems (especially my own) that nothing seems to ever change. I think right now my focus has been on the feeling of sadness and loss. My family and my spouse’s family are still very much alive,…
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Nothing Changes, Everything Changes
Hidden growth CW: HomophobiaBreaks between contact with my family are slowly stretching out. However, every time I do speak at dept with them it’s clear I’ve made the right choice. When I do speak to my mom it’s clear while everyone is growing up physically for the most part nothing changes within their lives. Vague…
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Who Is a Wise Man
Mulling over a message from my dad. About the nature of man.
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Going Low Contact
Stepping away from harmful generational cycles.
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NTM and Ministry Ages 0-4 (Part 1)
N.J. shares a personal autobiography series, describing their parents’ missionary aspirations and the challenging upbringing it entailed. Raised in a high-pressure, highly religious environment, the family underwent intense training for missionary life, including living off the grid. Despite learning about abuse within the missionary community, N.J. reflects on their parents’ unwavering commitment to their faith.
Freedom From Fundamentalism 