Family Dysfunction
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HOLY PARENTIFICATION, BATMAN!
Now that that’s out of my system. I just need to vent about parentification and the quiverfull movement for a hot second. I know last post was mostly about mental health and abusive relationship. But parentification is also something that haunts and harms kids within fundamentalist systems. I recently visited my grandma in the hospital…
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Abusive Relationships and Fundamentalism
I spoke recently about laying down boundaries with one of my siblings and how she was told not to witness to my children if she wanted to visit. The conversation quickly pivoted away from any mentions about visiting. And it’s not focused on my younger sibling witnessing personally to me. “Again out of love I…
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The Shred Box
CW: Death of a child, Miscarriage Recently I was talking with my spouse, and I realized that I had completely erased a traumatic event that happened early in our marriage. We were talking about all of the things that we’ve been through together, and she brought up a particular week very early in our marriage.…
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Dear Diary, Today I Came Out of the Closet
CW: Homophobia, discussion of gender, and religion. I realize I use this space to process my thoughts and feelings. And boy howdy do I currently have a lot of both of those. It’s hard to just focus on one specific part. I think a big topic I’ve been delaying processing is that I came out…
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You Could Have Had It All
I’ve been stuck on the same topic of “Nothing Changes” for a while now. And how within many family systems (especially my own) that nothing seems to ever change. I think right now my focus has been on the feeling of sadness and loss. My family and my spouse’s family are still very much alive,…
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Nothing Changes, Everything Changes
Hidden growth CW: HomophobiaBreaks between contact with my family are slowly stretching out. However, every time I do speak at dept with them it’s clear I’ve made the right choice. When I do speak to my mom it’s clear while everyone is growing up physically for the most part nothing changes within their lives. Vague…
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Who Is a Wise Man
Mulling over a message from my dad. About the nature of man.
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Conclusion (Autobio Part 6)
It’s not a simple ending no great conclusion or plot wrap-up. The disfunction in my family continues. And in many ways, I went on to perpetuate the disfunction started in my childhood. I went on to struggle with my mental health and anxiety in college. Gave patriarchy a try and even tried corporal discipline on…
Freedom From Fundamentalism 